Your friend has been in a bad marriage for 10 years. Everyone knows it. Nobody says anything. She asks you over lunch: "Do you think he's right for me?" What do you say?
I would lean across that lunch table, look her in the eyes, and ask: "What do you know for sure that you're pretending not to know?"
Here's what I've learned from thousands of hours of sitting across from people carrying secrets they were terrified to speak aloud: everyone already knows the answer. They're just waiting for permission to say it. The question your friend i...